You may have heard of the tree analogy (each limb of a tree represents a type of person)… I am going to give my own version of this analogy with personal touches.
Leaves: Leaves for me are those who come into your life and stay for a season. One cannot depend on them because your connection with them is weak. They are not “unnecessary” people, but they are temporary. Leaves, like most friendships, in the beginning are beautiful and exciting, but they only give temporary support and relief. They are never permanent as once the wind blows, they are gone.
Looking back at the mere years I lived, I think of all the leaves I have encountered and how many of them I have lost. I do not resent or regret supporting or having been supported by these temporary friendships, as each one of them allowed me to grow. Now a leave person isn’t someone who can understand you… they aren’t “you’re type of person” but you still get along. They may judge you, your humor may not coincide or your mindsets may differ… but you still get along one way or another. These are my version of leaves; people you socialize with on a basic level with no depth or compassion.
Leaves come for a purpose, one which they do not know, but it is a written purpose. When this purpose is fulfilled, they leave. Most friendships are only leaves, they support each other for a while, then the leaf withers and dies, just like that. Although it is sad, the lessons learned from every leaf you encounter is beneficial.
Every friendship I have lost is not due to hate, but merely because they were leaves and they were only meant to be temporary.
Branch: Branches are stronger than leaves… literally. Branches for me are the type of friends who say “you can depend on me/ I will always be here for you” but do not 100% mean it.
There are two scenarios, in my opinion, which cause a person to be a branch:
- A person may state what was said above and stick around for most seasons however when a storm or two arise, they break off. Although they are stronger than leaves, sometimes you cannot put all your weight on them as they are still quite weak.
- A person may state this and genuinely mean it but you are not comfortable with the branch, your connection to them is weak. They may not guide, support or understand you in the way you need to be. The want for this friendship is there but its not meant to be. Therefore, it breaks off after an amount of time.
In my life, I have never experienced the first scenario but the second scenario is the more popular phenomenon in my life.
I have encountered people that I know are genuine, but there is crack in the branch causing it to be weak. In my eyes, for a friendship to be strong, there needs to be complete trust, complete understanding and almost exactly the same mindsets in order for harmony to run through the bond. A branch has all these things but lacks in areas, causing the crack, causing the instability.
Roots: Root people are those you may not have encountered in your life just yet… and this is because they are beneath all the grass and soil, they hard to uncover and find the right ones. The right ones that will support you no matter what. The right ones that will love you and care for you through everything you go through. They are the ones that you know, no matter what, they will be there for you despite your possible actions. I am so blessed to say that I have met a couple of roots… some I speak to daily and some I don’t speak to daily. However that is the beauty of a root friendship, the length of time you don’t speak for doesn’t affect the strength of your connection and love.
A root friendship for me is one where you will never be judged for what you say, you are understood on an intellectual and spiritual level. You share your dreams, your ambitions as well as your fears. You are vulnerable to your roots, you become fragile and weak to your roots because they know the very best and very worst aspects of you. They make you laugh your hardest but they also make you cry your hardest.
“But if you find 2 or 3 people in your life that’s like the roots at the bottom of that tree you are blessed. Those are the kind of people that aren’t going nowhere. They aren’t worried about being seen, nobody has to know that they know you, they don’t have to know what they’re doing for you but if those roots weren’t there, that tree couldn’t live.”
The important thing to understand is not to rush and go looking for your root friend… they may come when you least expect it. I only met my root friends at the age of 16 (I am now 17) and after moving countries 8 times… so don’t fret. At the same time for those who have a root friend(s), never give up on them because they will never give up on you. If you live far away from them (as I do from my some of my root friends), message them and just tell them how thankful you are for them… never stop thanking and loving your root friend(s) because they truly are blessings.
Important: Every person you encounter in your life is important… each comes with a lesson whether it be through a bad experience or good. Every person allows you to mold yourself accordingly, shaping you into the person you are meant to become. So never regret time spent on someone even if the result of the friendship was upsetting, because I assure you, you grew from it.
P.S: These interpretations of a leaf, branch and root were my own so don’t rely on these interpretations to be the “truth”…